This word “blame” has been teaching me a lot of interesting life lessons in my life, and it is still teaching me. Why? It’s because it can become a person’s greatest strength or weakness.
When someone is blamed, he or she is being blacklisted literally. It’s like the blue rectangle above. No matter how perfectly blue the huge percentage of that rectangle is filled with (how perfect you have been in front of people), people will still put their focus on that red dot (you have only made 1 mistake out of 1000 tasks) once it is there. This analogy is not new to many of us, but I still see most people continuing to fall into this trap. In other context, how many people can actually not judge a book by its cover?
On the other hand, whenever I see someone being blamed, it tells me something about the blamer (and it depends a lot on how the blamer blames) instead. It gives me a very good idea how I should work well with the blamer even though the blamer may not know that he or she is doing so.
When I become the blamer, I will try to step back and see that it is not his or her common problem. Even if it is so, I try to avoid blaming wherever possible because it tells someone about my character (bad one usually), and it is not going to be a good thing for him or her.
When I am being blamed by someone, this is the time when I know that I am given the responsibility to turn it into my strength because I am given the “chance” to explain myself. Many people could have been defeated by “blame” but that is not the end.
Finally, the ultimate thing to do is to blame myself whether or not it is my mistake. It helps a lot in gaining responsibility to explain things better because everybody will start to feel relax (that it is not their fault) and then hearing from me with an open mind. Yes, it can be absurd to blame myself even if it is not my mistake, but that is only because everybody is trying to find someone to blame so that things can move on… So instead of finding someone to blame first, just take it so that you can have the power to move the situation since everybody will want to hear your explanation…